An attitude of gratitude: ‘Thank you’ means a lot

Summer’s end is in sight and across rural America, county fairgrounds are quieting. The livestock trailers have rolled out, the ribbons have been packed away and families are returning home with tired feet and full hearts.

For many, the county fair is a highlight of the summer. It is a celebration of community, hard work and youth achievement.

But, as the dust settles, I find myself reflecting on something that feels increasingly absent: gratitude.

Many of us grew up in homes where words like “please,” “thank you” and “you’re welcome” were as routine as brushing your teeth.

These were not just phrases. They were signs of character. We learned to use them sincerely because everyone around us did the same. It was part of our social DNA.

Lately, however, I’ve noticed a troubling shift. A surprising number of people, of all ages, seem to have misplaced those basic courtesies.

And, yes, I’ve seen it in the younger generation, but they didn’t invent this trend. They’ve simply inherited a cultural slip we’re all responsible for.

At a local fair several summers ago, I overheard a group of young people expressing disappointment with the awards they received after competing in livestock events.

Not disappointment with how their animal placed — no, they were frustrated with the gifts.

Many of these awards are donated by individuals or small businesses. They’re not all extravagant, but they’re given with heart.

They come from people who want to support youth in agriculture, to recognize effort and excellence in meaningful ways.

Not everyone can bid on the grand champion lamb at the 4-H auction. Some of us give in smaller, quieter ways.

I know most of these young people work incredibly hard. I’ve seen the dedication, the early mornings, the long hours in the barn.

But community support — just like competition success — isn’t something to be taken for granted. Whether it’s a plaque, a check, or a pat on the back, the response should be the same: appreciation.

This isn’t just about livestock shows. I have seen similar disregard in sports, classrooms, businesses and even places of worship.

It raises a difficult question: Are we becoming so self-focused as a society that we have forgotten the power of simple kindness?

Let me be clear — there are still many young people who lead with humility, who say thank you without being prompted. I see them, and they give me hope. But even the best among them could use reminders.

As of today, I haven’t heard from any of the recipients of the awards my husband and I donated at four different local fairs held earlier this summer.

That won’t stop us from giving again next year — but it might stop someone else who doesn’t yet know that giving comes with its own quiet reward.

And sometimes that reward is just a thank you.