Living example: The lessons from my dad

Earlier this winter while attending a farm show sponsored by a local radio station that carries Brownfield programming, a listener shared with me a poem, “Sermons We See,” by Edgar A. Guest.

The message was first published in 1919 in “The Boy Agriculturalist,” Volumes 12-13, Illinois State Training School for Boys.

As is often the case when people share poems, books, videos, or podcast recommendations, it can take a while to actually read or listen to them.

Life gets busy, and like everyone else, I sometimes leave those thoughtful offerings behind, half-forgotten, without ever fully taking them in.

This morning, the folded piece of paper with a copy of the aforementioned poem accompanied by a handwritten note from the kind listener fell out of a folder I had not picked up for three months. I took a moment to read it and am so glad that I did.

The synopsis is this: In “Sermons We See,” Guest emphasizes that actions speak louder than words. He argues that people learn better from observing good behavior than from merely hearing advice or sermons.

The poem stresses that living by example — through kindness, integrity and compassion — is far more powerful and inspiring than preaching ideals.

Guest praises those who quietly demonstrate their values in everyday life, suggesting that visible deeds of goodness are the most effective form of teaching and influence.

As I read the poem, I thought of how 4-H and FFA teach through hands-on learning, giving students real-world experience they can use throughout their lives.

Instead of just reading about agriculture, leadership, or life skills in a book, members get actively involved — whether it’s raising animals, growing crops, running projects, or leading community events.

These programs help young people learn by doing, which makes the lessons stick and builds real confidence.

Through practical application, students develop important skills like responsibility, problem-solving, teamwork and communication.

Whether they’re giving a speech, managing a budget for a project, or caring for livestock every day, they’re gaining experience that goes far beyond the classroom.

4-H and FFA prepare young people not just for careers in agriculture, but for success in any path they choose.

As I read the words of Guest, I pictured my dad. Some of the most important lessons my dad ever taught me didn’t come from lectures or long talks — they came from watching him live his life.

He didn’t always explain what to do; he just did it, and I learned by seeing. I saw how he treated people — with respect, patience and kindness — even when no one was watching.

I noticed how he showed up every day, worked hard without complaint and kept his promises. He didn’t tell me to be honest — he just was, and I understood the value of truth.

He didn’t say, “Be strong” — but I saw him stay calm and steady in hard times, and I learned what strength really looks like.

Whether it was working with cattle, hogs, or crop farming, helping neighbors and strangers, or quietly making sacrifices for our family, he taught me that real leadership, real love and real character are shown, not said. I still learn, watching my dad.

Happy Father’s Day!